Destination weddings are not right for everyone. Here are 10 reasons you may want to consider before booking your flight!
Destination weddings have a special sort of excitement around them – they can be magical! A beautiful/tropical location, stunning pictures, pina coladas etc. But while destination weddings can be a couple’s dream come true, they’re not right for everyone.
Why? They might not work with your budget, your overall vision, or maybe a destination wedding is the furthest thing from everything you and your fiance are and love! Whatever the reason, embrace YOU – you don’t have to travel halfway across the world for a magical day!
Here are 10 reasons why a destination wedding may not be for you.
1. Your Closest Loved Ones Can’t Attend
Unfortunately, it’s unavoidable that some of the people on your guest list will not be able to attend. They may not be able to take time off of work or afford traveling expenses, or possibly be able to find childcare. Additionally, if you’re inviting older family members, it is important to consider travel limitations. Consider who is most important and whether their absence could negatively affect your ability to enjoy your special day. If you do end up having a destination wedding, consider hosting an intimate local ceremony to symbolize your union or host a family reception for friends and family who were unable to attend.
2. Guest Expectations Are Too High
Another unavoidable fact of planning destination weddings is that you’ll be asking your guests to dedicate a lot of time and expense to celebrate with you. While there’s nothing wrong with planning the wedding of YOUR dreams, you may find that your guests’ expectations are much higher than what you’re willing to accommodate.
3. More Stressful Than It’s Worth
As if planning a regular vacation wasn’t stressful enough, now you have to deal with all the travel plans, logistics, and packing on top of planning an entire wedding. Not only that, you’ll find yourself worrying about when your guests are due to arrive or when their flight has been cancelled or delayed… because it’s going to happen! Can you handle the additional stress? Consider your limitation and the toll additional stress can take before taking it on.
4. Booking Vendors Blindly Is Terrifying
Every bride wants to look their absolute best on their wedding day, and why shouldn’t you? If you’re planning a destination wedding, you may be putting your trust in the hands of someone you don’t know – and may not have a chance to meet until it’s too late. You could book someone local but the added expense of flying out a makeup artist for your big day could be totally out of the budget. Consider a “scouting” trip to explore all your options and book all your vendors and venue.
5. You’ll Pay Big Bucks In Baggage Fees
Packing light is NOT an option! Though we reserve the right to be wrong and would love to see your minimalist packing list! Just thinking about how much stuff you’ll have to pack for the trip is overwhelming. The problem – baggage fees! Gone are the days of free checked bags – consider the airline you’re booking and how much baggage fees will add up to before booking the best deal you can find. And DO NOT forget to pack the rings!
6. Too Much Family Time
It isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but how much of your family AND extended family can you personally handle? Can you handle them for a week in close quarters? Also, consider that if you choose to stay for your honeymoon, you’re bound to run into some wedding guests who’ve decided to extend their stay. Destination weddings make that inevitable.
7. You’ll Need A Bigger Budget
Destination weddings are wonderful, but they are not inexpensive. There are many additional costs that could be avoided when opting for a traditional wedding. You have to consider the airfare, hotel accommodations for up to a week, meals, transportation, and guest activities on top of the usual wedding stuff … to name a few.
8. You Have To Plan A Vacation for 100
Or more, depending on the size of your guest list. When planning a destination wedding, keep in mind that you’ll be expected to have a full itinerary prepared for your guests including daily activities, local area suggestions and more. If you’re planning to pay for group activities, consider how much sponsoring excursions for your guests can cost before committing. What’s more, you’ll likely end up being the defacto tour guide. Don’t be surprised if you’re getting inquiries from guests all week long asking for local recommendations.
9. Your Gift Count May Be Lower Than Expected
Spending money on flights, dog sitters, hotel accommodations and new outfits might leave your guests with little for gifts. Consider their presence is already a gift in and of itself and enjoy your time together. For some guests, this could replace their annual family vacation. If you’re counting on cash gifts to subsidize a portion of the wedding costs, consider the limitations a destination wedding may put on gift giving.
10. You’re Stuck
Maybe something about the hotel freaks you out, or you get into a big fight with your maid of honor… whatever it is, there won’t be many places to hide. Remember to keep the peace for your sanity and enjoyment (and theirs!) If things do go wrong, kiss and make up quickly so that you can all go back to having fun – deal with it later when you’re back on local soil.
There is no right or wrong way to have a wedding, but a destination wedding may not be ideal for all. At the end of the day, what matters most is that you and your loved ones are together and happy.
If you are planning to have a destination wedding, we wish you the BEST time! Check out our Destination Wedding Ideas Pinterest Board for inspiration to plan your dream wedding!
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